Favorite Products for Moms

Mug Tumbler / Go Hydrate Packets/ Hydrating Lip Balm / Weighted Sleep Mask / Day & Night Cream

Skin Reviving Pads/ My Favorite Tee Shirt / Hair Drying Scrunchies

Let’s talk products for the Mamas!

These towel drying scrunchies for after the shower help me avoid using heat on my hair (I also got them for my kids post-shower so they don't drip their wet hair everywhere...) The moisturizer above is the ONLY moisturizer I use in the winter. It took me ages to stop using drugstore lotion and I'm so glad I did!

As for lips, this balm is soothing and hydrating and a must have for night time.

I’ve also been really enjoying these skin reviving pads. I use them twice week and has made such a noticeable difference in my skin.

It can be a hassle just staying hydrated throughout the day, so these two products really help me with that. I love these packets for staying hydrated. I've been using them since September.  They are full of vitamin D and there is no sugar or artificial flavoring!

This reusable mug tumbler (safe for hot AND cold drinks!) is AWESOME and I never leave home without it.

This is my favorite tee shirt of all time. I have four white and 3 grey and I literally wear one every single day.

 I am also addicted to this weighted eye mask. I bought it last spring and I actually cannot sleep without it. It is like blackout curtains and a weighted blanket in one. It is my go-to gift for all my mama-friends.

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The Best Toddler Art Supplies

Keep these supplies on hand so that you can get your toddler creating in a snap!

1. Triangular Crayons / 2. Dot Markers / 3. Play Dough / 4. Quick Dry Paint Sticks / 5. Dot Stickers / 6. Kraft Paper

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One Phrase to Avoid Using if You Want to Raise Confident Kids

If you want to raise confident kids, stop saying this popular parenting phrase:

“You get what you get and you don’t get upset.”

I will never forget the first time I heard this phrase. I was in grad school, doing my student teaching.  I sat on the floor in my corduroys and converse, surrounded by a circle of three year olds.  

The kids cheered and squealed as the music teacher showed the kids all of her treasures. She started to pass them out and the kids started shouting, “I want the blue shaker egg!” “I want the pink maraca!”. ⁣

She settled the children down by loudly stating, “Children. You get what you get and you don’t get upset”.  I watched as she praised a child who looked crestfallen, but didn’t open his mouth to express how he felt about his instrument. ⁣⁣

I felt a pit tighten in the ball of my stomach. This felt wrong.  I was a student-teacher not in a position to do anything other than wipe noses and observe.  I stayed quiet, but the feeling never went away.  I vowed never to teach that phrase in my own classroom. ⁣

How to Raise Confident Kids that Trust Their Instincts 

Look at this from a child’s perspective.  Using language similar to this phrase sends children the message that they shouldn’t ask for what they want.  It’s telling them to stuff their feelings and accept things as they come.

Give them the opportunity to say,  “I am upset.  I really wanted the blue balloon and I got the red shaky egg instead”.

Stopping your child from expressing their emotions sends the message that their feelings are wrong and that you as their parent cannot handle their feelings.  It also teaches them that they are supposed to hide how they really feel. 

Your child is allowed to be sad, mad, angry, and disappointed.  It’s okay for them to get upset. 

Your child needs the opportunity to practice coping with not getting what they want in a supportive environment. ⁣ 

Now imagine your preschool-age child as a teen or tween.  Do you want them to hide their feelings when they are upset or when something is bothering them?  Or do you want them to be able to speak up for themselves and trust their emotions? 

“I have a bad feeling about the way this guy is treating me. I am uncomfortable…”

You want to raise confident kids that are able to trust these inner feelings and instincts, not have the belief that they can’t get upset and think that they are overreacting.  

How Allowing Meltdowns Can Raise Confident Kids

Allowing your child to fall apart and accepting their emotions when they don’t get what they want, does not mean that you have to give in to what they are wanting just because they are disappointed. Acknowledging what happened is enough.

This may sound like:

“You wanted the blue egg and you got the yellow one.  I saw what happened.”

“You got the yellow egg when you wanted the blue one.  Now you are grabbing the yellow one.  I won’t let you grab.”

Take a moment to calm your child.  After your child is calm, try getting them curious about what they are feeling!

“You got the yellow and wanted the blue.  You tried to grab, but I wouldn’t let you.  What could you have done instead?  Any other ideas?”

Young kids will have great ideas (as long as they are regulated and calm) about what they could do differently and they will love realizing that they have autonomy in the process! 

Use “No” as an Opportunity to Build Confidence

Hearing the word no is an opportunity for your child to learn coping skills and build confidence.  Take these opportunities to teach your little one that they can be okay even when they don’t get what they want. 

But how do you teach them that they can be okay without falling apart any time they are disappointed?

Practice.  Try acting out not getting what you want and then ask your child what they think you should do.  Kids want to be respected and part of the process.  Teaching them these skills will help them realize that they can make choices and problem solve when things don’t go their way. 

Check out this blog for some ideas of scenarios you can practice with your child.

If you have used the phrase “You get what you get and you don’t get upset” in the past, don't beat yourself up.  This phrase comes from a place of good intention.   

You can support your child’s big feelings without canceling them. 

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3 Things to Tell Yourself When You Feel Like A Sh*t Parent

We all doubt our parenting capabilities sometimes. There will always be a sense of hesitation and a lack of certainty around parenting. There is not one parent out there who can say with one hundred percent certainty that they have not made any mistakes.⁣

Parenting is hard. Night wakings and poopy diapers are intense. Not knowing whether to sleep-train or co-sleep, whether to feed with breast or bottle. IT’S. NEVER. ENDING. I’ve been a mom for thirteen years. I have a Master’s Degree and lots of early childhood experience. I’m a mom to three children and an aunt to nine. I’m pretty good with kids and I know a lot about play and development. But, let me tell you…. IT IS STILL NEVER-ENDING. The parenting decisions that we make every single day can be insurmountable. We are lucky to have choices, even when they might feel overwhelming.

Here is what I tell myself when I am feeling like a less than stellar parent…⁣

I am a good and capable mom because I love my children and I make choices with their best interests in my heart.⁣

It is okay to make mistakes.⁣

I’m teaching my children that perfection does not exist in a healthy and happy experience.

When I mess up, which is pretty much every day, I say to them…. I am still learning about being YOUR mom. I am still learning about how to take care of YOU. I don’t always make the right choices. ⁣

Every child is different and every person’s experience as a parent is different. It’s okay to experience some self-doubt. My goal is to become comfortable feeling a little bit uncomfortable. That’s when I know I am on my toes and growth is happening.

I wish for all of you to know that whether your child is sitting and eating cheetos in front of the TV or hand-sewing while eating organic brussel sprouts that they grew themselves, I think you are a good mom.

If you show up for your child and you love them, YOU ARE A GOOD PARENT. ⁣

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QUIET TIME AND INDEPENDENT PLAY EBOOK

This downloadable ebook is your personal guide to Quiet Time and Independent Play.  This ebook will teach you the basic steps to implementing a Quiet Time and Independent Play strategy that works. The guide teaches you my proven 5 step method for implementing a daily break without using screens. (Guide includes 5 bonus invitations to play.)

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