5 Tips to Ease Your Child's Separation Anxiety (and Yours)

Is your little one starting school this Fall? I know that lump in your throat all too well. Saying goodbye can be H A R D... on you and on them. But don't worry, I've got your back!

As a former preschool teacher and a mom of three, I've been through the separation and school entry process more times than I can count. Let me spill the tea on how to make this transition smoother for everyone involved.

First things first: All kids are different. Trust me on this one. Two of my kids clung to me like little koalas, while the third practically shoved me out the classroom door. Your child's reaction? It's just that - their reaction. It doesn't mean you've done anything wrong or that there's anything wrong with them. Deep breaths, okay?

Now, Let’s Get Into Those Tips:

1. Be honest - Don't even think about sneaking out! I know, I know. It's tempting to pull the ol' disappearing act when your little one is distracted, and many teachers will tell you okay. But here's the thing: sneaking out causes insecurity. Instead, show them you're reliable, even (especially!) during the tough times. A quick, confident goodbye does wonders.

2. Be confident - You're their emotional compass Your child is looking to you to figure out how to feel about this new situation. If you're a ball of anxiety, guess what? They'll pick up on that faster than they can say "playground." Show them through your actions and words that school is a safe place. Fake it 'til you make it if you have to!

3. Give a visual - Paint a picture of your day. Little ones often struggle with the concept of time. Help them out by giving them a mental image of where you'll be. Something like: "While you're painting and playing with your new friends, I'll be at the supermarket picking out your favorite snacks. I'll be back to get you right after you have lunch." This gives them a concrete idea to hold onto.

4. Allow all the feelings - Even the messy ones Look, I get it. When your child is the only one wailing at drop-off, it can feel mortifying. But remember this: expressing emotion is healthy and normal. Let them feel their feelings. They'll work through them faster if they're allowed to experience them fully.

5. Give it time - Rome wasn't built in a day and starting school is a MAJOR transition. It's okay if it takes a while for both of you to adjust. With time and consistency, your child will be ready to separate. And you know what? So will you.

Remember, whatever you're feeling is valid. This is a big step for both of you. With a little patience and these tips in your back pocket, you've got this. Before you know it, you'll be the pro at the school gate, reassuring the newbie parents.

Hang in there, and don't forget to treat yourself to a little something after that first drop-off. You've earned it! 

If you are nodding your head as you read this blog post, please do yourself a favor and check out our best-selling product, “A Parent’s Handbook For Starting School.” 

Here’s what you’ll find inside: 

• 10 Things To Do If You're Anticipating A Hard Drop Off

• Phrases To Avoid At Drop Off And What To Say Instead

• How To Provide Physical

• Comfort When You Are Away From Your Child

• Make Sense Of The School

• Calendar For Your Preschooler

• How To Keep The Late Afternoons Peaceful When Your Child Is Exhausted From School

• How To Learn More About Your Child's Day At School

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