Conquering Separation Anxiety: 5 Proven Strategies to Support Your Child's Transition to School
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The fall season is fast approaching, and that can mean only one thing: it's back-to-school time!
For many children (and parents), this can be a stressful time, particularly when it comes to saying goodbye at the classroom door. But don't worry, we are here to help. As a former preschool teacher and a mom who has personally navigated the school entry process three times, here are five tips to ease your child's separation anxiety – and yours.
Embrace Your Child's Unique Personality
Remember that every child is different. Among my three, two struggled with separation anxiety, while the other was born ready to fly the coop. Your child's separation anxiety doesn’t mean you did anything wrong, and it certainly doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with your child. It is okay and totally normal for kids to have a hard time with school/ daycaredrop off.
Honesty Is the Best Policy
Resist the urge to sneak out to avoid the teary goodbyes. This can only lead to insecurity. Instead, openly discuss the situation: "This is new for you. It's okay to cry, and it's okay to play. Your teacher will take care of you when I leave. Let's do three hugs, three kisses, and then wave goodbye."
Project Confidence
Your child looks to you for guidance in unfamiliar scenarios. If you project an image of the school as a safe and nurturing environment, they will eventually follow suit. Be sensitive to their feelings, stay calm, and display confidence in both your child and their caregiver.
Provide Reassurance
Let your child know where you'll be while they're at school. Paint them a mental picture. For example: "While you're at school, I'll be at the supermarket and will pick you up after your lunch." Giving your child this reassurance can help make the separation a little easier.
Allow Big Emotions
While it can be uncomfortable to see your child upset, remember that expressing emotion is both healthy and normal. Starting school is a significant transition and, given time, your child will grow more comfortable with the routine. I know you might wish your little one was like the easy breezy kid that you just saw enter school without looking back, but you’ll get there. It is a process.
Patience and trust are key in helping your child navigate this new journey. And if you need more support, be sure to check out my best-selling ebook, "A Parent's Handbook for Starting School". Use the code DROPOFF for a 20% discount.
By employing these strategies, you'll be setting the stage for a smoother transition to school life for both you and your child. Lastly, give yourself the same grace you’re giving your child.
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