Tired of Sibling Arguing? Empower Them to End the Fight
Are your kids fighting non-stop? Stop trying to fix it by saying things like this:
“Stop this arguing!”
“Give that back to your brother right now.”
“Stop being so mean to her!”
Start empowering with statements like this:
“Does this game feel fun for you? Your faces look angry, your voices sound frustrated, and you are hitting one another.”
“If this game doesn't feel fun for you, it's okay for you to choose to play somewhere else.”
“You both really want to be in charge of the big dinosaur in the game. Hmmm, that's hard. I wonder how you'll solve this one…”
“Sometimes it is so much fun to play together and other times it might be too hard.”
Kids getting along? Use small everyday moments to support their sibling relationship.
“Wow, you are both smiling and you worked together to build that block tower. Looks like you are having fun.”
“You both wanted to be the mom in the game, and you figured out a way to make that happen. That worked out really well.”
“You let your brother use your Legos today. He felt really good when you shared with him.”