Does Your Child Throw Toys? How To Help Them Stop Throwing and Start Playing
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Things to Know Before Setting Up:
Skip the bin of supplies. Instead put out two or three markers or crayons . Young toddlers are focused on mark-making and do not need lots of colors to create with. Lots of supplies can feel overwhelming and lead children to dumping and throwing. Fewer supplies are better.
Use large sturdy paper and tape it down. A flimsy sheet of construction paper moves around and tears easily, which leads to frustration. Use sturdy paper and tape it down.
Don’t set up at the kitchen table. Why? young children use their whole arm and body when creating. Sitting at a table that is too high for them makes that hard. Instead, tape some paper down on the coffee table or a bench so that they can stand and work at eye level. You can also tape a large paper to the wall so that they can work vertically or tape it down on the floor. (scroll to the bottom for my favorite toddler supplies)
But… what if they still throw the markers?
Relax in the knowledge that testing limits and boundaries is your child’s job! They are doing exactly what they are supposed to do. Your toddler is still learning what to do with a marker. They are not misbehaving when they throw the marker. BUT… that does not mean you should ignore it.
Use this as teaching moment.
Keep your language clear and neutral and try this:
You are still throwing the markers. I am going to put them away and we will try coloring again tomorrow. Would you like to read books together or go outside and throw the ball?
Your child might get upset when you remove the markers. Stay firm without shaming them. Tell them that it’s okay to be sad. Tell them you’ll make sure they get another turn tomorrow.
Remember: Toddlers learn to respect boundaries by testing them and making sure they are strong.
Confused about which supplies are best for toddlers?
Dot Markers/ Play Dough/ Triangle Crayons/ Dot Stickers/ Butcher Paper/ Quick Dry Paint Sticks